I got the call about Natalie being taken to the hospital.....never in a million
years did I think my life and the life of my family was about to be changed
forever. I thought we were finally going to find out why this poor little one
was so so sick all of her life.. I prayed on the way to the hospital that there
would be answers and solutions.......
I arrived looking for Jason since it was he who had tried to save her...I knew he must be so hurt or scared. I was told he was taken to the county jail, not sure why at that point and had assumed it was standard procedure.
I decided to go see Natalie first.
When I walked into the room my heart broke. It was clear to me she was gone.
I went to her bedside and prayed and cried out to God.. I knew if she were
to be ok it would be done by my God. I prayed that if it were HIS will to
bring her back to us that HE could and would and if it wasn't then HE would
also be there for everyone of us left behind..... as I sat there holding her
hand and praying I knew who was in charge,who had her life in HIS hands
and in that place I did have a peace beyond understanding..... then it hit.....she
IS gone......she isnt coming back and I screamed ,sobbed fell to the floor.....
my daughter picked me up and led me away...... It is all such a blur....but there
are moments in that time that are seared into my heart and soul........the times
of unbelief,sadness,peace,fear and then there is anger..angry for this
precious baby who never recieved the care she needed...
I thanked the Lord for her and knew she would suffer no more.she would be with HIM and she will be dancing on the streets of gold ,never to suffer again AND we will
meet again someday.
There were many people there , all in shock and disbelief as to what happened.
None of us knew what to do or say to eachother.
Rumors were starting to fly....things were assumed and things were ignored.
Doctors, nurses all coming in and out, then the detectives showed up. We all went through questioning , I remember thinking,the truth is what will set my son free, the truth is what we stand on...... it did not happen, we all told the truth to what we knew,who Jason was,how Jason was, how much he loved this little one.
I never had one thought as to, I better watch what I say or how I say
it........never. I was taught that you can trust the police,the doctors,the system.
I know now, that this isn't always true.... I hate that the most . My trust is
broken for everyone and everything now.... I do have trust in the Lord and am
grateful...that is the ONLY place I trust.....
It was a swirl of emotions and thoughts, the worst kind,everything
unknown,everyone was hurt and scared and suffering. How does one make
sense of that?.....you can't , you just get through it......you comfort those who
need it and they comfort you when you need it...
The main doctor came in to tell us that Natalie had been shaken.... and that
Jason had done it....... WHAT? HOW ? WHY? WHEN? WHAT? all of those go
through your thoughts....you realize the situation is rampantly out of
control now......
I did my best to remain calm and faced the doctor and said ,
ok, so you think MY son shook this poor baby? and for now I will let you have
that, just please find out for me what was wrong with her. Her entire life was
spent sick and suffering .
He turned to me and said, well now , that doesn't really matter now does it !
Unreal. I said YES it matters, it means everything
to us.......We cared for her,we had her almost every night until the last 2 weeks
of her life.......WE loved her. WE need to know what was wrong ! He turned and walked away.......never to talk with me again,directly... I turned to the mother and said.......are YOU going to let that go? She said.....I don't know what to do. I said, you find out what was wrong with her......what has happened . I pleaded with her to speak up...
I decided to go see Jason, we had been told he was in county jail being
interviewed about what happened. My daughter and her husband took me over
to the jail .. we tried everything we could to see Jason,finally being told there
would be no visitation with him. My heart broke yet again, no access to MY
son? Why not?
He is hurting,scared and he wants to see his baby girl !
I could not understand,he wasn't charged with anything yet.... and I really truly
didn't think he would be and decided to head back to the hospital..
It was full blown chaos by the time we returned, we saw the mom being lead into the
elevator with the detectives.......she looked at me ..... she ran to me and hugged
me and told me she was scared, we were all scared........NOONE did anything
to Natalie......we learned much later she suffered with Hydrocephalus.......she died as a result of a fall and her condition. Why did someone have to be blamed?
She was taken to the jail and put in a room with Jason I was told, their
convesation being taped, I thought it meant they were trying to find out if she
had anything to do with it.......come to find out later it was to find out what
they thought was the truth and she could help get that from Jason.. Jason was
interviewed for hours and he just kept saying, I didn't do anything . I tried to save her ! I want to see my daughter!
They lied to him over and over,told him he could see her later......he was never allowed to see her again.
I can't imagine the pain of that. We got to hold her. Say goodbye Kiss her,let
her go in peace and know she was not suffering anymore and there was no
way to let Jason know she was gone. I am sure the police let him know.......just
not sure how they did that.......that is one of the toughest things for me as his
mom.....no comforting him,no letting him cry his heart out ......no anything .
Back at the hospital.... everyone walking around in shock...rumors
flying....accusations being made. whispers , silence when you walk into the
room... angry looks,angry words.hurt people.
I will say,the nurses were kind, how do they deal with this everyday,how
awful to see little babies suffer so.....and to think they were told MY son did
this, and yet they were kind to us,I am thankful for that....I wish I could say
the same about the head doctor.... I found him to be hard and cold......not open
to anything other than what he thought or said....... I argued with him to no
avail.....and didnt plan on stopping that argument
He needed to do more.not just say "Shaken " and let it go.
I wanted to know what was wrong for 5 1/2 months......even IF Jason did what they said he did.... I wanted to KNOW.
Natalie deserved more that this !
We found out that the mother was releasing Natalie's organs the following
day...... I protested. I asked her to rethink this decision! Let me tell you first, first off , I am all for organ donation, I am a donor myself..... but we still did not have answers as to why Natalie was so sick for so long and I felt we needed everything to find that out ,even after the fact..AND,who was getting these organs.From such a sick baby? ......there is that trust issue again. I did trust that everyone wanted to know the truth , they didnt.
It came down to the moment of saying Natalie was officially gone.......
unreal....unbelieving.....so much happening. So many lies,so many times things
ignored! Would her life be in vain? Why wasn't anyone asking, What had been wrong with her all her life? Granted, our family had her most of the time in those last days,she didnt seem to have contact with the moms family very
often..... but still.....dont you want to know why? Doesnt Natalie deserve us all to know why?
The official meeting was going to happen.to call her death and decide what to
do next....I asked to be a part of it. The mother agreed......the rest of her
family wasn't to happy about that......that didnt matter to me. I wanted to speak for Natalie .
I wanted to KNOW why she had been so sick.....
We all sat down....I was given looks I prayed the lord would remove from my
brain..I thought the truth could still come out ,in this room with everyone
there......it didnt!
They talked about the cause of death.the organ donation......the end...
I asked the mother if she would help find out why Natalie was so sick for so long....
She turned to me and said , but she was better this week....WHAT? NO, she
wasn't.......dead silence....horrible looks given...me..still shocked in that, I seemed to be the ONLY one in that room, that wanted to know !
The end....all decided, all get up to go...organs donated, doctor happy , family
struggling , people hurt....... is there hope now? of EVER finding out the truth.....
My hope is in the Lord ! It is never ending......I will hope until I meet
him ,for the truth...for Natalie .for my precious son !
We all then took turns saying good bye to sweet little Natalie....holding
hands. kissing, praying and comforting eachother.
I wanted the truth. TRUTH....anyone else remember how important this is? The TRUTH will set you free, we have all heard that... it doesn't always look like it here on earth.
I have been set free........God is good......now to set my son free.
Hugs, tears, prayer, shock, disbelief, comfort, anger, rage, sorrow , tears...... for
hours,for days,for years now.
years did I think my life and the life of my family was about to be changed
forever. I thought we were finally going to find out why this poor little one
was so so sick all of her life.. I prayed on the way to the hospital that there
would be answers and solutions.......
I arrived looking for Jason since it was he who had tried to save her...I knew he must be so hurt or scared. I was told he was taken to the county jail, not sure why at that point and had assumed it was standard procedure.
I decided to go see Natalie first.
When I walked into the room my heart broke. It was clear to me she was gone.
I went to her bedside and prayed and cried out to God.. I knew if she were
to be ok it would be done by my God. I prayed that if it were HIS will to
bring her back to us that HE could and would and if it wasn't then HE would
also be there for everyone of us left behind..... as I sat there holding her
hand and praying I knew who was in charge,who had her life in HIS hands
and in that place I did have a peace beyond understanding..... then it hit.....she
IS gone......she isnt coming back and I screamed ,sobbed fell to the floor.....
my daughter picked me up and led me away...... It is all such a blur....but there
are moments in that time that are seared into my heart and soul........the times
of unbelief,sadness,peace,fear and then there is anger..angry for this
precious baby who never recieved the care she needed...
I thanked the Lord for her and knew she would suffer no more.she would be with HIM and she will be dancing on the streets of gold ,never to suffer again AND we will
meet again someday.
There were many people there , all in shock and disbelief as to what happened.
None of us knew what to do or say to eachother.
Rumors were starting to fly....things were assumed and things were ignored.
Doctors, nurses all coming in and out, then the detectives showed up. We all went through questioning , I remember thinking,the truth is what will set my son free, the truth is what we stand on...... it did not happen, we all told the truth to what we knew,who Jason was,how Jason was, how much he loved this little one.
I never had one thought as to, I better watch what I say or how I say
it........never. I was taught that you can trust the police,the doctors,the system.
I know now, that this isn't always true.... I hate that the most . My trust is
broken for everyone and everything now.... I do have trust in the Lord and am
grateful...that is the ONLY place I trust.....
It was a swirl of emotions and thoughts, the worst kind,everything
unknown,everyone was hurt and scared and suffering. How does one make
sense of that?.....you can't , you just get through it......you comfort those who
need it and they comfort you when you need it...
The main doctor came in to tell us that Natalie had been shaken.... and that
Jason had done it....... WHAT? HOW ? WHY? WHEN? WHAT? all of those go
through your thoughts....you realize the situation is rampantly out of
control now......
I did my best to remain calm and faced the doctor and said ,
ok, so you think MY son shook this poor baby? and for now I will let you have
that, just please find out for me what was wrong with her. Her entire life was
spent sick and suffering .
He turned to me and said, well now , that doesn't really matter now does it !
Unreal. I said YES it matters, it means everything
to us.......We cared for her,we had her almost every night until the last 2 weeks
of her life.......WE loved her. WE need to know what was wrong ! He turned and walked away.......never to talk with me again,directly... I turned to the mother and said.......are YOU going to let that go? She said.....I don't know what to do. I said, you find out what was wrong with her......what has happened . I pleaded with her to speak up...
I decided to go see Jason, we had been told he was in county jail being
interviewed about what happened. My daughter and her husband took me over
to the jail .. we tried everything we could to see Jason,finally being told there
would be no visitation with him. My heart broke yet again, no access to MY
son? Why not?
He is hurting,scared and he wants to see his baby girl !
I could not understand,he wasn't charged with anything yet.... and I really truly
didn't think he would be and decided to head back to the hospital..
It was full blown chaos by the time we returned, we saw the mom being lead into the
elevator with the detectives.......she looked at me ..... she ran to me and hugged
me and told me she was scared, we were all scared........NOONE did anything
to Natalie......we learned much later she suffered with Hydrocephalus.......she died as a result of a fall and her condition. Why did someone have to be blamed?
She was taken to the jail and put in a room with Jason I was told, their
convesation being taped, I thought it meant they were trying to find out if she
had anything to do with it.......come to find out later it was to find out what
they thought was the truth and she could help get that from Jason.. Jason was
interviewed for hours and he just kept saying, I didn't do anything . I tried to save her ! I want to see my daughter!
They lied to him over and over,told him he could see her later......he was never allowed to see her again.
I can't imagine the pain of that. We got to hold her. Say goodbye Kiss her,let
her go in peace and know she was not suffering anymore and there was no
way to let Jason know she was gone. I am sure the police let him know.......just
not sure how they did that.......that is one of the toughest things for me as his
mom.....no comforting him,no letting him cry his heart out ......no anything .
Back at the hospital.... everyone walking around in shock...rumors
flying....accusations being made. whispers , silence when you walk into the
room... angry looks,angry words.hurt people.
I will say,the nurses were kind, how do they deal with this everyday,how
awful to see little babies suffer so.....and to think they were told MY son did
this, and yet they were kind to us,I am thankful for that....I wish I could say
the same about the head doctor.... I found him to be hard and cold......not open
to anything other than what he thought or said....... I argued with him to no
avail.....and didnt plan on stopping that argument
He needed to do more.not just say "Shaken " and let it go.
I wanted to know what was wrong for 5 1/2 months......even IF Jason did what they said he did.... I wanted to KNOW.
Natalie deserved more that this !
We found out that the mother was releasing Natalie's organs the following
day...... I protested. I asked her to rethink this decision! Let me tell you first, first off , I am all for organ donation, I am a donor myself..... but we still did not have answers as to why Natalie was so sick for so long and I felt we needed everything to find that out ,even after the fact..AND,who was getting these organs.From such a sick baby? ......there is that trust issue again. I did trust that everyone wanted to know the truth , they didnt.
It came down to the moment of saying Natalie was officially gone.......
unreal....unbelieving.....so much happening. So many lies,so many times things
ignored! Would her life be in vain? Why wasn't anyone asking, What had been wrong with her all her life? Granted, our family had her most of the time in those last days,she didnt seem to have contact with the moms family very
often..... but still.....dont you want to know why? Doesnt Natalie deserve us all to know why?
The official meeting was going to happen.to call her death and decide what to
do next....I asked to be a part of it. The mother agreed......the rest of her
family wasn't to happy about that......that didnt matter to me. I wanted to speak for Natalie .
I wanted to KNOW why she had been so sick.....
We all sat down....I was given looks I prayed the lord would remove from my
brain..I thought the truth could still come out ,in this room with everyone
there......it didnt!
They talked about the cause of death.the organ donation......the end...
I asked the mother if she would help find out why Natalie was so sick for so long....
She turned to me and said , but she was better this week....WHAT? NO, she
wasn't.......dead silence....horrible looks given...me..still shocked in that, I seemed to be the ONLY one in that room, that wanted to know !
The end....all decided, all get up to go...organs donated, doctor happy , family
struggling , people hurt....... is there hope now? of EVER finding out the truth.....
My hope is in the Lord ! It is never ending......I will hope until I meet
him ,for the truth...for Natalie .for my precious son !
We all then took turns saying good bye to sweet little Natalie....holding
hands. kissing, praying and comforting eachother.
I wanted the truth. TRUTH....anyone else remember how important this is? The TRUTH will set you free, we have all heard that... it doesn't always look like it here on earth.
I have been set free........God is good......now to set my son free.
Hugs, tears, prayer, shock, disbelief, comfort, anger, rage, sorrow , tears...... for
hours,for days,for years now.